Buying a sex toy as a gift can still trigger that tiny pause.Is this weird? What does this say about me? About us?
Whether you’re buying for yourself, for a partner, or for us, the truth is simple: gifting pleasure doesn’t have to be awkward. When chosen thoughtfully, it’s one of the most intentional, caring gifts you can give.
This is your no-cringe guide to buying a sex toy as a gift. Confidently, comfortably, and without overthinking it.
Why Buying Yourself a Sex Toy Is Self-Care
Let’s clear this up first.
Buying a vibrator for yourself isn’t a sign you’re missing something, it’s a sign you’re listening to your body.
We invest in wellness all the time: skincare, supplements, Pilates memberships, therapy. Sexual wellness belongs in that category too.
Sex toys help you:
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understand what actually feels good to you
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reduce stress and tension
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build a healthier relationship with pleasure
Choosing something like Bette or Lennon as a self-gift isn’t indulgent — it’s intentional. It says:
“Your/my pleasure is worth prioritising.”
How to Choose the Right Sex Toy
The best sex toys to gift aren’t the most expensive ones, they’re the most appropriate ones.
Instead of asking “what’s the best?”, ask “what would feel most comfortable and exciting?”
Discreet and gentle
Perfect for beginners or sensitive bodies. Look for soft silicone, quieter motors, unintimidating shapes.
→ Bette is designed exactly for this: gentle, intuitive, and non-overwhelming.
Playful and curious
For people who enjoy exploring and switching things up. Look for multiple settings, flexible designs, experimentation-friendly.
→ Lennon would be a go-to, playful without being intimidating.
Powerful and confident
For experienced users who know what they like and want more depth and intensity.
Stronger vibrations, fuller stimulation, designed to be savoured rather than rushed.
→ This is where Gwen comes in.
Gwen is for people who already have a relationship with their pleasure — or who are ready to deepen it. She’s not about quick fixes; she’s about taking your time and enjoying the build.
Classic and reliable power
For those who love a wand-style experience with intention behind it.
→ Wanda remains a go-to for a reason.
Price doesn’t determine pleasure — fit does.
Gifting a Sex Toy to a Partner (Without the “Am I Not Enough?” Fear)
This is the most common concern when gifting a sex toy to a partner, and we get it!
But here's what you should be thinking: sex toys don’t replace partners, they support intimacy.
They’re tools for:
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shared exploration
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better communication
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taking pressure off performance
When you gift a toy like Wanda or pair a vibrator with Glide, you’re not saying “this is missing.”
You’re saying: “I care about how this feels for you — and for us.”
Pleasure isn’t a competition. It’s collaborative.
What to Say When You Gift It (No Awkward Speech Required)
You don’t need a big explanation. Confidence does the work for you.
Try one of these:
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“I saw this and thought it could be fun for us.”
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“No pressure — just thought it might be nice to explore together.”
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“I got this for you… but also kind of for us.”
Delivered casually, without expectation, these land exactly as intended.
A Simple Sex Toy Finder (So You Don’t Spiral)
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, start here:
Clitoral
External stimulation. Great for beginners and sensitive bodies or those who know they love a clitoral orgasm.
→ Bette
→ Gwen
Internal
Designed for penetration or G-spot stimulation.
→ Lennon
Dual / Couples
Shared play, exploration together.
→ Wanda + Glide
Beginner vs Experienced
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Beginners: smaller, softer, simpler
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Experienced: more power, more options
When in doubt, choose comfort over complexity.
FAQ
Is it awkward to gift a sex toy?
Only if you over-explain. Confidence and intention remove the awkwardness.
Can I buy a vibrator as a gift for my partner?
Yes absolutely! Frame it as exploration, not replacement.
Are sex toys appropriate self-care gifts?
Absolutely. Sexual wellness is part of overall wellbeing.