Pregnancy is one of the biggest things to put your body through. It can also feel like the ultimate paradox too.
On one hand, your body is working overtime to grow a tiny human.
On the other, you might find yourself more turned on than ever...or not in the mood at all. But both are absolutely normal. Libido during pregnancy fluctuates hugely, and sex can look different month to month, even week to week... Or hour to hour if you're having one of those days.
The good news: sex during pregnancy is usually safe, pleasurable, and can even be beneficial. So who says you can't start your hot mama arc before you even give birth?
Whether you’re navigating increased desire, discomfort, or just want reassurance about sex during pregnancy, vibrators or toys, this guide breaks down everything you need to know.
First things first: can you have sex while pregnant?
Yes.
For most healthy pregnancies, sex while pregnant—including penetrative sex, oral sex, masturbation, and vibrator use—is safe. Your baby is cushioned in the amniotic sac, and the cervix is sealed by a mucus plug, so they’re protected from vibrations or penetration.
The NHS confirms that sex during pregnancy is safe, but there are situations where your doctor or midwife may advise otherwise. This includes unexplained bleeding, or a history of preterm labour. In cases like these always follow the advice of your medical tea.
Otherwise, having sex during pregnancy isn’t just safe, it can help boost your mood, reduce stress, and increase intimacy with your partner. Three things we think every one deserves during pregnancy!
Sex in early pregnancy: first trimester
Many people ask: is sex safe in early pregnancy? The answer is yes, unless you’ve been advised otherwise by a medical professional.
That first trimester of pregnancy is tricky though. It's when you're normally sticking your head in the toilet due to nausea, more tired than you ever thought was possible, and your hormones are all over the place all of the time.
Is it any wonder that for so for many, sex during early pregnancy might be a big NO? Absolutely not. And that's ok if sex feels like it's the last thing on your mind.
Pregnancy and the first trimester can be a wild time to get your head around. Especially if it's your first child. So take it easy and listen to what your body is telling you.
Sex in the second trimester
The second trimester is often described as the “honeymoon period.” Energy levels return, nausea eases, and many women experience a rise in libido.
Another big plus for the second trimester boost? Increased blood flow can heighten sensitivity, making orgasms feel stronger. OK, you might be a little more interested now...
It’s also a good time to experiment with different types of intimacy, because this is the time when your stomach starts to bump. Try out oral sex, sensual massage with Melt, or exploring toys like the Bette finger vibrator for clitoral play.
Find out what feels good for you right now. It might not alway end in orgasm, but you'll have fun trying what kind of new sex during pregnancy is best for you.
Sex during the third trimester
The third trimester can bring new challenges. Back pain, fatigue, or feeling like you’re carrying a bowling ball. Penetration may be tricky, and some women worry about orgasms triggering labour.
While orgasms can cause mild uterine contractions, the NHS advises these are harmless in healthy pregnancies. Only if you’ve been told otherwise should you avoid sex by your medical team.
But if you're wanting sex, we'd suggest focussing on:
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External stimulation: Wand and finger vibrators like Wanda and Bette.
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Side-lying positions: Spooning reduces pressure on your bump.
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Slower intimacy: Massage, kissing, and clitoral play can feel just as satisfying as penetration.
And we know we've said this before, but sex doesn't always have to result in an orgasm. It can be used as a great tool to reconnect with your partner and with intimacy too.
Benefits of sex during pregnancy
Loads of people ask: is sex good during pregnancy? Does sex during pregnancy have any benefits? The answer is yes and yes! Sex can help with:
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Improved mood and stress relief
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Better sleep thanks to endorphins
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Stronger intimacy with your partner
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Increased pelvic blood flow (which can make orgasms more intense)
Unless advised otherwise by your healthcare provider, the consequences of not having sex during pregnancy are simply personal. And again, there's no right or wrong way to approach sex and intimacy during your pregnancy. Only what feels right and good for you.
Best sex toys for pregnancy
Yes, you can use vibrators during pregnancy! (Thank goodness)
In fact, they can be a game-changer if penetrative sex feels uncomfortable or if you want to explore new sensations. Always stick with body-safe silicone toys, keep everything clean, and listen to your body.
1. Clitoral vibrator: Gwen
Whisper-quiet and powerful, Gwen delivers focused clitoral stimulation. Perfect if you want a discreet toy that doesn’t require much movement.
2. Gentle finger vibrator: Bette
Small but mighty, Bette slips over your finger for pinpoint clitoral pleasure. Ideal for couples or solo play. Its strap also means if you're suffering with stiff joints during your pregnancy you don't need to grip.
3. Dual-Ended Wand Massager: Wanda
Wanda offers deep, rumbly vibrations for external pleasure and doubles as a massager for sore backs and shoulders. We love a buy that can be used for when your pregnancy is over!
4. G-Spot Vibrator: Lennon
Curved to find the G-spot, Lennon is great for shallow penetration and exploring new sensations during pregnancy.
5. Massage Candle: Melt
Melt turns into warm, nourishing oil which is perfect for easing those pregnancy aches and creating intimacy without focusing on penetration.
FAQs on sex during pregnancy
When to stop sex during pregnancy?
You can usually continue sex until your waters break or labour starts. If you have complications (e.g. placenta previa or unexplained bleeding), alwaus follow medical advice.
Is it safe to have sex in early pregnancy?
Yes. Sex during the first trimester is safe unless your healthcare provider advises otherwise.
Does sex affect early pregnancy?
In a healthy pregnancy, sex does not affect the baby or increase miscarriage risk.
Does sex feel different when pregnant?
Yes. Increased blood flow can heighten arousal and make orgasms more intense. Some women also experience vaginal dryness or discomfort, so we'd always advice a good dollop of Glide lube too.
Are there disadvantages to sex during pregnancy?
There are no disadvantages in a healthy pregnancy, though some women may find sex uncomfortable or tiring due to physical changes. It's entirely up to you.
Benefits of sex during pregnancy?
Improved intimacy, stress relief, better sleep, and sometimes even easier labour thanks to increased pelvic tone.
Till which month is sex safe in pregnancy?
Sex is safe right up until labour begins, unless your doctor has advised otherwise.
Final thoughts
Sex during pregnancy is safe and natural. But it’s also okay if you don’t feel like it.
There's no “right” way to experience intimacy and sex while pregnant.
The key is to follow your body’s lead, communicate with your partner, and use tools that make you feel comfortable. Whether that’s reaching for Gwen for a gentle clitoral orgasm, exploring G-spot play with Lennon, or winding down with a Melt massage.
Your pregnancy can be a time of discovery as much as change.
Medical Disclaimer
This blog is for educational purposes only and should not replace professional medical advice. Always consult your doctor or midwife if you have concerns about sex or vibrator use during pregnancy.