Period sex. It really is the taboo of all taboos. But it can be a welcome mood booster in what may otherwise be a pretty shit few days. Plus, let’s not forget that orgasms can help relieve period pains, especially period cramps (no, I’m not kidding, that isn’t just a myth!).
Sex during your period acts as a natural pain reliever because the body releases endorphins during orgasm, which are natural painkillers that can help ease cramps and discomfort.
I’m not here to tell you what type of sex you should or shouldn’t be having, and if period sex isn’t your jam, that’s absolutely fine. Instead, what I am here to do is give you some tips on having safe, enjoyable, mess-reduced sex if you do want to have some fun while the painters are in (if you know what I mean).
Introduction to period sex
Let's cut straight to the chase: period sex is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Having a go during your time of the month is a completely normal part of a healthy, thriving sex life, even if some people still get a bit funny about it. Menstrual blood is just another one of those bodily fluids that might make an appearance during your sexcapades, and it's definitely no reason to put things on pause altogether.
Actually, for loads of people, period sex can feel bloody brilliant (pun intended!) thanks to all that natural lubrication your body's providing. If you and your partner are up for it, period sex can be an amazing way to connect, explore some new sensations, and keep your sex life buzzing—even when Aunt Flo's in town. So, if you're curious about giving it a whirl, don't let a little bit of blood get in the way of having an absolute blast!
Health benefits
There's way more to period sex than just breaking taboos—it can actually be bloody brilliant for you! For starters, getting it on during your period can help ease those annoying menstrual cramps and other PMS symptoms, thanks to your body's release of endorphins during orgasm (nature's own little pain relievers, if you will). These natural mood boosters can make those tough days a hell of a lot more bearable. Plus, having a romp on your period might actually help your cycle along by encouraging that uterine lining to shed more quickly—which could mean a shorter period (and who doesn't want that?).
Loads of people also notice that their sensitivity and arousal are absolutely heightened during this time, making sex feel even more mind-blowing. And let's not forget the mental health perks: period sex can help melt away stress and give your mood a proper boost, making it a total win-win for your body and your headspace!
Talk about it
Like any kind of sex, it’s not a good idea to just dive into it without any prior discussion with your sexual partner. You might be interested in giving it a try if you haven’t already, but your partner might have some reservations - or vice versa. Have a chat about whether it’s something you’d both be comfortable exploring.
Open communication with your sexual partner can help both of you enjoy intimacy during menstruation and ensure a comfortable, satisfying experience.
Do it mess-free
Or… as mess-free as you can at least. If you’re open to the idea but not keen on the thought of your bed looking like something out of a horror film, I have a few tips within a tip for you:
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Put a dark towel down. A dark towel helps hide stains and absorbs fluids, making cleanup easier. You can put it straight in the wash after and if it’s a dark colour you can’t even see the blood.
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Keep wipes close-by for an efficient clean-up - and so you don’t have to ruin the post-O bliss with a swift waddle to the bathroom.
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Try shower sex. Having sex in the shower is just practical—you're washing as you go, making it a clean, controlled environment that minimizes cleanup.
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Consider using a menstrual disc. Menstrual discs are similar to menstrual cups except you can wear them during penetrative sex!
Period sex can be a bit messy, but that's completely normal and manageable as long as everyone is comfortable and safe. Remember, period blood is just like other bodily fluids, such as saliva, and is a natural part of sex.
Menstrual products and sex
Wondering how to get your groove on during that time of the month without turning your sheets into a crime scene? Girl, menstrual products are about to become your absolute bestie here.
Menstrual cups are having a moment, and for good reason! These little beauties can stay put during some types of fun times, catching all that flow while you focus on the good stuff. But if you're looking to get down and dirty with some proper penetrative action, menstrual discs are your secret weapon. These clever little things sit way up high in your vaginal canal, right at the vaginal fornix, so they're collecting everything without cramping your style (literally).
And hey, if you're in the mood for some oral adventures, menstrual discs have got your back there too, keeping everything tidy so you can just enjoy the ride. Just a heads up though—if you're rocking tampons or pads, ditch those babies before any bedroom antics to dodge any awkwardness or nasty infections. With the right gear in your corner, you can focus on getting your rocks off instead of stressing about the mess.
Removing stains
If you get blood on your bedding or towel, the number one thing you need to remember is to go for COLD water. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but trust me, hot or warm water will only set a blood stain even more. If it's only a small stain, a cool wash in the machine will probably do the trick. If it's pretty sacrificial in there, soak in cold water and salt before washing. Works like a charm!
Don't forget about contraception
Some people seem to think that when you’re on your period, you don’t need contraception. In reality, using birth control methods is important even during your period. Not only can you absolutely get pregnant from period sex, you’re also still at risk of transmitting and contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
Unprotected sex during your period can increase the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, and to avoid pregnancy, contraception should be used, as sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for up to five days. Having sex during menses may increase the risk of infection, so extra caution is needed. You’re actually even more likely to transmit an infection that’s carried in the blood such as HIV or HPV - so if anything, barrier contraception such as condoms and dental dams are even more important.
Penetrative sex considerations
Thinking about getting it on during your period? Hell yes! There are definitely some things to keep in mind to make it absolutely amazing and safe as possible. Safe sex is still super important—grab those condoms or barrier methods because they'll help prevent pregnancy and keep you protected from STIs, which can actually be more easily passed through blood (just being real with you!).
You might find that certain positions like spooning or missionary feel way more comfortable if you're dealing with cramps or a heavier flow—listen to your body and work with it, not against it! Communication is everything: chat with your partner about what's feeling incredible and what's not hitting the mark, and don't you dare feel bad about setting those boundaries.
Worried about the mess? Throw down a dark towel or hop in the shower for some steamy fun—problem solved! With just a little bit of planning and the right mindset, period sex can be just as mind-blowing (and honestly, maybe even more intense) than any other time of the month.
Try something different
Don’t forget that vaginal penetrative sex isn’t the only sex there is. You can also receive oral sex during your period, which many people find pleasurable and intimate. Why not take this opportunity to have some other kinds of fun.
You can enjoy external stimulation, oral sex and anal sex all while keeping a tampon or menstrual cup in; so totally mess-free. It could be the perfect time to get a toy involved too. Try playing around with some grinding with a vibrator between you (Gwen, I’m looking at you) - again, no need to remove your tampon or cup! Exploring different activities like these can really enhance your sexual pleasure during your period.
If you feel comfortable, you might even find that trying more sex during your period is enjoyable and satisfying, thanks to increased sensitivity and arousal.
If this has got you fired up and raring to go then all that’s left to say is, go forth and have a bloody wonderful time! If you’re still a little cautious about it, don’t put any pressure on yourself. You’re no less of a sex-positive badass if period sex just isn’t for you. Plus, if you do ever decide to try parting the red sea, my finest tips will always be here waiting for you!