Mutual masturbation: 7 reasons why you should give it a go

Let's face it. Masturbation is fun.

It relieves stress, helps you sleep, and improves your relationship with your body. Plus it feels fantastic! What's not to like?

Well, nothing in our opinion. But there's a way to share the joy: mutual masturbation. 

What is mutual masturbation?

As with the wonderful world of sex, there's many different subtle variations — but there's two main types:

Type 1: you masturbate in the presence of your partner/s.

Type 2: you stimulate your partner's genitals as they simultaneously stimulate yours.

You can use hands, toys, or both!

So without further ado, let's dive into why this might be the next thing you want to try in the bedroom…

#1 It's a way to explore sex without penetration

Sex does not equal penetration. Sometimes you're not in the mood for that. Sometimes you’re not. Sometimes it's not possible. 

But with such a focus on penetration by near enough everyone, it's no wonder we forget that. So mutual masturbation gives that space to explore sex in an entirely different way. 

Who knows, you might find some new spots or tricks!

#2 It's a great way to show your partner/s what you like

You might feel too shy in the moment when engaging with your partner/s sexually within "normal" bounds. 

But if you've got your hands or toy showing them exactly what drives you crazy, it's a good way to get them to try it out on you next time. 

Protip: if you're still a little shy, try having your partner/s watch you through a crack in the bedroom door. And when you feel more comfortable signal them to enter the room. 

#3 More ways to bond

Let's face it, masturbating in front of your partner can be incredibly vulnerable. By showing this side of you, you're letting your partner/s into intimate areas of yourself you've never shown before. And the same goes for them!

It opens up a whole different side of intimacy and trust for many people. 

#4 There's zero risk of STIs

If you're masturbating together one of the big benefits is that you're not putting yourself at risk of a sexually transmitted infection. 

And if you're masturbating each other, your chances of transmission are significantly reduced. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't take precautions when needed. 

#5 Perfect for long-distance relationships

Or if you're being kept apart in these covid-19 times. 

Set yourselves up on a video-call and give it a go! It may feel strange at first, but it can help you feel physically connected despite being apart. 

Protip: take turns telling each other how you want them to touch themselves

#6 A way to connect through mismatched libidos

It can be guilt-inducing when you have a different libido to your partner. But mutual masturbation can be a way to connect through this. 

Giving a way for you or your partner to be still sexually satisfied even if you or they are necessarily in the mood. You can take on the role of voyeur — making it clear to your partner that you're invested in making them feel good, even if you're struggling to get there yourself. And vice-versa!

#7 Anyone else feeling tired?

After a long day of work/study/childcare/insert emotionally and physically draining aspect of modern life/etc it can be hard to feel frisky. 

Mutual masturbation offers a low-stake way of keeping your sexual wellness going, but not requiring a huge amount of physical or mental energy. Plus it's a stress-reliever, so the more you incorporate it into your nighttime routines, the more you might be up for the all-singing, all-dancing show.